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My Simply Tuesday

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My Simply Tuesday

Sometimes being a Stay at Home Mom can be very, very boring.  Mundane.  Repetitive.  I know some moms go on play dates, to the park, to story time at the library, music class, or what have you.

I have no such luxury.  While we decided it would be best for me to be home, we need my income. So, I run a small daycare out of my home.  While this is an amazing opportunity for me to bring in an income while staying home with my littlest boys, it also means that for 11 hours a day (at least) I am home bound.  Although I could leave after all my daycare kids are gone, this time usually includes homework, dinner, baths, and bedtime for my kids.

So, to be honest, there are weeks where I don’t leave my house for days at a time.  DAYS.  I last left the house 3 days ago, and I have no immediate plans or need to go anywhere, so who knows what this week will look like.  And really, I’m okay with this.  This is where I’m needed in this season of my life.

At first, it was really hard.  But now, I’m in a rhythm.  I’m keeping up on things, and I’m appreciating the season I’m in.

Which brings me to my Tuesday theme, inspired by Simply Tuesday: Small-Moment Living in a Fast-Moving World by Emily Freeman.  You can find it HERE. (I have it on checkout from my local library as an e-book, but some of us need actual hard copy books. I get it.)

“What if, instead of thinking we have to choose between our ordinary life and an extraordinary life, we began to realize they’re the same thing?”  – Emily Freeman

Tuesday blog posts will consist of glimpses into our day-to-day.  What small moments am I cherishing on that ordinary day?

Today, I’m cherishing brotherly love.  I mean, look at these three.  (This was actually one of about 5 shots we took this day, and this was the best one…seriously.)  Not one of them is looking at me, and I’m pretty sure one is watching TV. But look at the love they have for each other.  They love sitting together. Talking to one another. All three of them are touching.

Instead of allowing them to annoy me today, I’m choosing to appreciate and embrace these moments and experience the love my babies have for each other.

What are you cherishing today?
#itssimplytuesday

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Life with Men

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I have three children now. Boys.   Three boys.  And a husband.  Also a boy.  And a dog…you guessed it, boy.  All boys in my house.

I’m incredibly outnumbered, and I know I’m not the only mom who has ever been in this place.  I know there are moms who have way more boys in their homes than I do. And honestly, even one little boy can be a lot to handle sometimes.  (this is not to say that only one little girl, or a gaggle of girls, isn’t a lot to handle.  I just don’t know.  Because, you know, I have boys.)

I always pictured myself as a mom of girls.  I don’t know why; it might have had something to do with the fact that I am a girl and I am comfortable with all things girl. Apparently, that was not God’s plan for me!

What’s so great about being a boymom?

  1. Grooming is soooo easy.  Wash. Comb Hair.  Cut Nails.  Brush Teeth.  Done.  No braids, bows, ponytails, detanglers, accessories, nail polish, etc.  Getting dressed? Piece of cake.  Pants? Check.  T-shirt? Check.  Does it coordinate? They don’t care.  (Again, maybe this is true for little girls, too.  I don’t have any.)
  2. Toys are very interchangeable.  With the exception of small Legos, almost any toy the biggest and middle boy are playing with is acceptable for the baby to play with, and despite their five year age difference, the other two play together easily.  Star Wars and Super Heroes are always age appropriate.
  3. Brothers have a special bond.  I am amazed watching how they teach each other, care for each other, and help each other.  I don’t remember being this way with my brother.  I think there is something special about brothers and I can’t wait to see them with their littlest brother once he becomes more mobile.  They are already awesome with him.
  4. Everything is funny.  Just let someone pass gas or say the word poop (or for our two-year-old right now, “booty”) and it’s OVER.  They won’t stop laughing for at least 20 minutes. And their laughs are downright infectious.  You can’t have a bad day when you’re listening to them roll on the floor and laugh.
  5. They always want to protect and care for you.  YOU are their princess and they will save you no matter what. You are always the most beautiful girl in the world to them, and they want nothing more than to make you happy.  They are little romantics when it comes to their mommies!  Just last night my middle son told me he was going to come mow my lawn when I get old.

Yes, they are loud and messy sometimes (okay, ALL the time, really).  They think gross things are hilarious and they have some sort of radar for the tiniest area of dirt to dig in.  But, they also want to take care of their mommies.  They’ll rub your back or your hair, bring you a pillow, make you a picture, or carry out some other sort of sweet gesture to make you smile.

Raising boys is important work.  They are the next generation of husbands and fathers. Teaching them to leave behind what’s become “acceptable” for male behavior and that it’s okay to have feelings, to be honest and vulnerable and respectful, to lend a hand instead of always trying to get ahead, to care for others, to value kindness over money or athletic prowess is hard work.  Work that I cannot possibly do under my own strength – many days they are simply too much for me, and I am trying hard to pause and ask Jesus for help loving them even when they are difficult.

In my boys’ bathroom, I have a sign reminding them to “Be Men of Courage” (inspired by 1 Corinthians 16:13). You can purchase it or similar signs HERE when she restocks.  My hope is that it helps them remember to do what is right and not just what it easy.  I also use Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most by Brooke McGlothlin as a guide to praying scripture over my sons. I don’t even think they know I do this. (You can find it HERE.)

I know that these years go fast and I should want them to slow down. But I also know that although I’ll only have little boys for a while, I’ll always have three knights in shining armor, ready to take the recycling out for me, help me with chores, or just give me a quick hug and kiss on the cheek.

It’s not how I ever imagined parenthood would look, but I wouldn’t trade these three for anything in the world, and I wear my boymom status proudly.  There will be new experiences for me as the mom of three boys, and I look forward to the day they might give me beautiful daughters-in-law or granddaughters, but for now I am going to soak up their sloppy kisses and belly laughs and be thankful for the brothers who live in my home.

#thankfulthursday
#momofboys  #boymom  #parenting #prayer #courage #raisingboys

Summer Bucket List

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People always think that since teachers have “summers off,” we don’t do anything work related from May 31-August 15 each year.  We just go on vacations, lounge around the pool, and generally relax and have no responsibilities.

I’m here to tell you (although you may not believe me), that couldn’t be further from the truth.  Many of us still coach in the summers.  I do.  Many have second jobs (that extend into the school year as well).  I do.  Many of us take classes, attend conferences and seminars, and spend the summers revitalizing curriculum and coming up with new and exciting ideas for the next school year.  Yes, we spend some time vacationing or relaxing with our families and friends, but for the most part, we still work.

I often find myself going into the last few weeks of the school year with such a sense of hope.  It’s a stressful time of year, sure, but there is also the light at the end of the tunnel.  Summer is almost here.  And I start to formulate ideas of things I want to accomplish, places I want to see, experiences I want to have with Aidan.  This is going to be the summer where I work out and lose a bunch of weight, or the summer where I read all the books I wish I would have read in the past, or the summer where I become super mom and my kid not only eats everything on his plate, but uses his manners and is potty trained to boot.

Then August arrives and I’ve done a few things, but in between coaching and working and hanging out with my kiddo, my list is largely still sitting there, staring me in the face.

I don’t want that to happen this summer.  Before this summer “kicks the bucket,” there are a lot of things that I want to see, do, and experience.

*I want to read books.  Lots of them.  I’ve thought about setting a quantitative goal, like a book a week, but I don’t know if I can stick to that, especially considering that I have some longer reads on my nightstand.  So I’m going to try for roughly a book a week, but just keep reading all summer long.  Some books I want to read are novels, some are education related.

*I want Aidan to be potty trained.  This must happen.  I’m done with diapers.

*I want to visit the KC zoo, the Topeka zoo, LegoLand, SeaLife, Deanna Rose Farmstead, Schlitterbahn, and any other kid-friendly day outings in the area.  I want to go places and see things with him.  I sometimes worry about his behavior or demeanor in public (he often wants to just stay home) and I think the only way to improve that is to show him how cool not staying home can be!

*I want to learn to cook more kid-friendly things that he will eat.  Peanut Butter is now outlawed at his preschool, and I am truly at a loss for what to send in his lunch….he’s so picky.

*I want to start working out three times a week and doing yoga the other four days. I have got to get more physical activity into my routine.

*I want to drop at least 25 pounds.  I can do that (especially if I do the previous item).

*I want to implement a clear plan for paying off debt.  Like charts and whatever I need to know how I can start to tackle this monster that is looming over me.

*I want to write more.  Recently, I was talking (grumbling) about now knowing what to do next in my life, and a friend said, “why don’t you put that energy into your blog?” I think that is a wonderful idea, so that’s what I will do.

*I want to go into next school year with new ideas.  Not just the same things I have done every year.  I want to totally refresh my classroom and my curriculum with challenging content.

Some of these goals are personal, some are work related.  Some are more significant than others.  But they are all things that I want to look back on August 8 (when I report back to work….sigh) and feel good that I’ve accomplished them.

For me, this weekend is full of writing, working, and outings with Aidan.  It’s going to be a good one.